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The question trapped in my head

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Maja spends a long time forming a question and fearing judgement, while Jonas hears only one short sentence. He cannot see all the work that happened before she spoke.

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Maja, Jonas in panel 1 of The question trapped in my head.
No, that sounds stupid. Maybe I should explain the context first…
Maja, Jonas in panel 2 of The question trapped in my head.
Jonas… with this… I’m not sure I understand it correctly.
Maja, Jonas in panel 3 of The question trapped in my head.
No. It’s the other way round here.
Okay.
Maja, Jonas in panel 4 of The question trapped in my head.
He probably thinks I know nothing.
I answered the question.
Maja, Jonas in panel 5 of The question trapped in my head.
I need more than the answer. Tell me where my reasoning went off.
Sure. That’s a different question.
Em, the Empatyzer coach
Maja brings a whole invisible layer of anxiety and preparation into a short question. Jonas hears only the few words she actually says and answers them literally. His brevity becomes a judgment she experiences even though he never made it. If you need more than the result, say so in the question. Ask for the reasoning, a check of your assumptions or the point where your understanding began to diverge.